The Marriage Gamble


The Marriage Gamble explains by way of many examples, what both men and women must do to have really good marriages, or to maintain really good relationships longer, married or not.

Good marriages aren’t random and don’t happen by chance, rather they are the result of intentional effort.

If you are married or want to be, or you are in a serious relationship and want it to last, Steve’s books are meant for you.

The first step to marriage longevity is understanding the unseen, naturally occurring dynamics that affect all relationships long-term. We can only become aware of these dynamics by being taught about them, the same as with math in school. You won’t learn to solve complicated math equations simply by living life. The same concept applies to human relationships. How much relationship education have you received in your lifetime? Probably very little at most.

People believe they don’t need relationship education which is the first and biggest problem. We struggle with relationships as a society because we aren’t taught the basics, much less the intricacies, of living successfully with a mate for life which is our ultimate relationship goal. Remaining happy living with another person, day after day, month after month, year after year, is the most complicated endeavor we will ever undertake yet we enter into marriage blindly with little or no knowledge or specialized training on the subject. Premarital training is a great start to your relationship but it’s not intended to be a complete education. One course does not constitute a degree. We marry without the proper skills to do it well and then wonder why we struggle.

How do we make relationships and marriages last? How do we become better mates or spouses? Through learning. Through conversation. Through personal growth. Why should we learn to become better spouses? Because great spouses don’t divorce! It’s as simple as that yet 50% of us fail at this seemingly non-complex undertaking. Not so “non-complex” is it? What have you done lately to improve your skills as a spouse? If you can’t answer that question quickly and easily, you will after you read The Marriage Gamble.

Using first-person anecdotes from his more than three decades as a family law attorney, author Steve Bruneman provides frank examples to illustrate the preventable pitfalls facing all relationships.

The Marriage Gamble is a step-by-step guide offering real-world examples to help you become the best spouse or mate you can be. Beginning with the Triangle Theory of Relationships and continuing with the Circle Theory, T2 Conversations, the Distressed Brain Theory and on and on, Bruneman gives his readers a clear view of the paths relationships take and the issues all couples face, and he clearly explains what we all must do to successfully navigate through these issues in order to attain long-term relationship success.

This book serves as a road map for continuous relationship learning for those who want to be happily married for life. Education is the key to greater success in all areas of our lives; and relationships are no exception. Reading The Marriage Gamble with your significant other will enable you to have conversations that you never imagined possible on topics critical to your happiness in the relationship. You will both instantly acquire new skills to help each other find more satisfaction and happiness; crucial skills required to maintain your relationship for life.